R.I.P Love (vol. 2)

Pt 4: comparison is a contrast between two or more humans or places or ideas. And it is somewhat UN-controllable in the human circle, in the sense that we tend to irrationally use our personal standards to measure life’s activities and people’s abilities in general. We unjustly perceive and comment on acts and omissions in manners we best understand, not necessarily how the general standards are measured by the majority. This problem is substratum because parties to a union refuse to see or view the others as they ought to be seen or viewed. Illegal act of constantly drawing a line between humans really does affect input; understand one thing, that people are different and have different mentality. The fact your ex wakes up at 6a.m don’t mean I should if I do not have morning prayers, and need not be at work till 10a.m, and it should not affect me when I am self-employed also. Just because your former cooks and clean don’t mean you have to rub it on my face that I am not competent to hold that office of girlfriend. Instead of spend all the time comparing between peoples, its encouraging assisting that individual, group or party to become that sure being/entity you admire and desire. It’s simple; see him or her as they are, and input your own swag by teaching him/her to be your most favorable being, no need for long thing.

Pt 5: trust is that faith, belief, hope, confidence we have in other humans, or a system. It is for the writer, the concept that best prolongs a union; trust can allow parties apart from each other remain strong. Simply put, lack of trust must encourage ill thoughts in minds which will not go well with the relationship. For instance a male will be thinking about where his partner is, what she is doing, who she is with vice-versa. Do you agree that it gets to a time in a relationship where love fails and its other matters that sustain the union e.g. children, amebo people and TRUST…etc. trust must not be denied a place in the minds of parties to a union, it ought to be a serz matter because of its importance.

Pt 6: positivism and understanding will have to be fused together for two reasons, 1: and most importantly my eyes are hurting, and 2: both concepts should be woven together as they quietly form the basis of a valid union. A positivist will at all times advocate for his/her partner to have hope and strength to face the future with excess morale and support them in this plight. This person cannot attempt this without adequate understanding of life and the partner involved. Understanding is the bedrock and key of a successful relationship. All other points must come or fall after understanding and a positive approach. If you understand your spouse to the largest extent then a lot of things would not cause issues, rather there’ll be more lasting solutions to their problems. Always ask for the Grace of understanding.

Thank you.

@pokeville

R.I.P Love (vol. 1)

                                         28-01-2008 - 21-06-2012

‘am so sure if I meant all wat u claimed den ure supose to sacrifice more dan am doin to ensure we grow into a higher level. U dnt put me in ur priority datz y u let me use ma last naira to buy card while u use use to drink wit ur frds. Do ur frds behave lik dat to dere gals? Y do u always let me do everytin even wen u can do a lot more wit d lil u hav? Am I askn u to buy me a house or a car? Jst card so we wld talk. Ur still ur old self n notin has changed abt u. Am sorry but I can’t continue any more. U always make me cry by ur actions n am tired of cryn wen I can b happy’

That’s what she sent to me weeks to my hammer, apparently she needs no part in the comfort I’ll offer. Space has not allowed her witness for herself the truth on ground. The reality is, her grounds for her argument and subsequent forging ahead are genuine, and admissible; and justly, I have to accept the reasoning even though in tears. I guess I’ll set fire to the rain emitting from my eyes and dry it up shapa shapa. Window has closed, na door I de track next.

The above was sent to the writer by a person, who chose to remain anonymous for deliberation, and a lot of points are deducible and stand fit, but we’ll attempt distance, sacrifice and patience in this post, and then trust, understanding, comparison and positivism in a sequel:

Pt1: @standupchic in her blog http://standupchic.wordpress.com/2012/06/21/been-in-love/ (check it out), was hola’rin bout distance as a factor that affects relationships; but in this write-up it’s regardless of it been primary or secondary. The writer is trying to treat distance in its strict sense (proximity).  Truth is distance really does affect stuff, because we see a whole lot of folks, both married, and un-married path-ways because of ‘physical absence’ of each other, not mental or spiritual; just ‘physical‘so is it really suppose to be affecting stuff? The writer thinks that’s all the excuse they give to commit illegal (#justsayin) the writer does not think distance should damage stuff; See its better now because OBJ did it fresh, and communication got a lot easier, at least there’s technology that can allow you HEAR sound from them even if you don not see them, but still people split. This is me, the writer feels distance is just an excuse man relies on to move ahead to appease appetite and thirst with something NEW… i travel to new side, I see new tins I tire for old tin… PERIOD…! Check, if she’s not by my side, am good because I trust she ain’t doin wrong, not necessarily because she isn’t,(only God knows) but simply so I don’t  nurse illegal thoughts, and create untrue  events which might now cause many many problems if she isn’t, and all the wahala will be thanks to my negative mind. Also, Just because of the excess ‘missing’ and in some cases ‘conji’ our minds begin to manufacture excuses justifying acts and omissions. You call less, do not communicate too often anymore etc. some would argue out of sight is out of mind.

Pt2: sacrifice is key in a union, that alone visualize a ‘claim to love’ sacrifice is not just your everyday giving, this one is different, it entails LOSING something in return for the realisation of a greater good. When you give and not feel any pain in that act of giving then it has not reached that level to attain sacrificial status. If you put quality into your union\relationship, quality will come out. No doubt about that.

Pt3: patience is a virtue and this should be applied to all aspects of human life. Well, we all have patience for food to at least half-cook. The writer can chao stuff from fire when kush instigate hunger which spark up anger. So let’s use partly cooked food still cooking to give us all some little trait of patience; We have that level of patience, but the main patience is the one that can supposedly seem to intend to hinder our hustle, that’s the one we misunderstand, then impatient us detest; and that’s the one that carry the ‘fine-girl price’ and that’s what we fail to claim because we just cant WAIT…

The writer believes that problems of phone call, drinking beer with guys, tears tins should be substituted with profound sacrifice, patience, RESPECT(most significantly), and a positive mind because they can, and will hold and sustain any union, regardless of the physical proximity (distance) between the parties to the love. Except when one party or both want to taste new tin, and want to hide under the protective umbrella of distance and quarrel quarrel which has worked for years. Else I think space between parties alone should not cause kwata kwata or put an end to a union.

Thank you

@pokeville

MaRRiaGE

Brothers are giving up on everything just because ‘they’ (brothers) give a lot of flimsy and shitty reasons for not taking the girl to the Altar. Reasons like ‘my mom don’t like you’ ‘my sister dreamt you are an ogbanje’ ‘my father said your father stole yam during the war’ so we cannot hang no more after sucking the juice out of the girl’s body, and she’s looking like puke. GOD IS WATCHING

If she brings any form of stability in your life, or balances your hustle, or caters for your household, put a ring on her finger (don’t dull it). Serzly, the writer would have said if she’s good in bed, but as a Catholic we don’t advocate for pre-marital capping, but don’t sweat it, about 70% tidy, so, if she’s good in bed MARRY her. Look marriage is not complicated at all like we think, it’s not enigmatic, it’s not problematic, well the only problem is that it becomes extremely BORING after a while. Marriage is like clear-cut glass, it’s unequivocal, unambiguous. See God will not allow for the preservation of the sacredness of the institution of marriage for this long if it was an impossible or dirty event.

Bruf look, who said she has to come from your locality before she becomes eligible? See some of our parents married from their side because they grew up together, or they forced upon them females, or just because they met nice traits in them, that’s all. Things have changed now, ok check the writer has lived in Abuja for 25 outta 26 years, the mentality and orientation he has is strictly Northern (not Malo) don’t rush, don’t fight, just Swagly do stuff yh; now how can I just meet, live and work with somebody without similarities? How do I live with a person that don’t think like me, and that we do not have a ‘mental connection point’? We just wunt work…

Point is, if I can live with Itsekiri, then that’s that; if she’s Akwa-ibom, or Nupe, or Calabari, or Ibo, or Ijaw, or Hausa, or Gwari or Yoruba or anything, even Winch, just Marry and start life. Unlike Yankee or Jand, here, in Naija if you no marry they’ll say you are possessed; that’s why it’s kinda mandatory to marry. Geographical area does not make a being FIT for earth’s longest union; no doubt it helps but it doesn’t boil down entirely to that. Agree with the writer that, if she could change color, or name, she definitely would for your sake… marriage is simply like Marijuana, it can mar or make a man. A good woman is good regardless of age, height or color.

THEwriter cares Less what you think, THEwriter believes it’s messed up judging a person on grounds of things they cannot change… if you fight over excess alcohol, over tobacco, or most commonly, over staying out late, then it’s cool. These are immoral acts that can be changed. Not blood-type, age, color, height, village (but be careful sha, some side still de chao flesh) or name, or facial marks (kai!!! But some parents have to stop TIGER marks on kids, especially females) or place of worship, or religious denomination. This in fact (religious denomination) is a reason that prompted this write-up. Look a choice of the same religion, or same locality (village) solves 50% of post-marital life’s kwata-kwata, no doubt; but the writer’ll ask 1 question (answer in ur mind) does full-born married Catholics fight in marriage? How about Pentico? If the answer is yes, then it only means fights are just an inevitable aspect of married life, it comes due to conflict of interest. Dude, shawty listen up, your parents have lived their lives, so will your friends, and it boils down to YOU and your SPOUSE ONLY. Just hang with a person you can live with, that’s what’s most important; not some rubbish, smelling, mu-mu annoying reasons WE always put up.

Thank you                   

 @pcogitatio

DEciSIonS

Ever since I realized that the things I do or say before infants or young people can have a direct role in affecting their judgment or rearranging them, and so means I play a contributory role in their ill acts out-rightly allows me a share in their punishment or sin. You see, I did not teach them to do or say evil, no, I did not; but they LEARNED to misbehave because I was looked up to. I decided to do and say things rightly. I decided inter alia that

1      I should only have photos or videos that promote morality in my devices younger ones have access to.

2     I should only spark my cigarette or Mary Jane, or show admiration to my bottle where no infants are, so they do not know I find solace and comfort in them. Their body system might not be the same.

3      I should only dress decently, or, and advocate for decent dressing, these new breed have evil’er minds, and might not just be able to draw a line between ‘dressed’ and ‘naked’          

4      finally, even though difficult, I controlled my tongue in front of them. Because ‘gossip aunts beget gossip nieces’

N.B the usage of ‘I’ and ‘ME’ in this write-up does not refer to the writer, it’s YOU.

Thank you

Mr. LAWAN F

As a sinner I see no reason to comment on the man Mr. Lawan F, but ‘there should be honor amongst thieves’ don’t you agree? Why steal from us? January wasted because we hit the streets in protest of the increment in fuel price, commercial activities stalled; everything on pause, it even hindered a lot of hustle nation wide; peeps almost missed call-to-bar unto stranded abroad, and air-ports closed down. Now we noticed a wrong in the system; you Sir, consented to chair the committee that carried all Nigeria’s voice, and hand that we’d use to slap the crooks; and Sir you throw all that away. You put a slow in the one thing that would have brought us some moment of clarity. But truth is am not mad at you Sir, am just trying to consider, to maybe imagining his wife and all the humans he mentors, his students too. I think it means anything is possible because when game said it as regards 50 and vivica I only laughed. I hope I don’t blow it out of proportion, but its like waking up to see a photo of OBJ or IBB frowning, or even at least look worried… it never happens that you see a wrinkle on oprah’s face… am not mad he took the cash, naa not at all, its the manner the Honorable was tucking in bills in all his pockets and in fact his cap… wow!!! I mean he flipped the scripts on his followers, because their hero turned villain ‘overnight’         

Forget Lawan, is it man’s weakness or money’s strength, or is it both?  Money is said to be the sixth sense that allows you enjoy the remaining five, money is morale, and I mean with bills I can do whatever. I mean I can slap cop if I have paper. Also another sect would say lack of cash is the root of all evil (I key into this school of thought) but does it matter if its poverty, or out-right disrespect and consent to disrespect of morality, or is it a need to keep wealth for generations unborn? I think not, I think its lack of ‘discipline’ money is just an aspect of life people lust over, it could also be women, it could be booze, or even trees, and it could just be anything. But the medicine to cure this ailment is self discipline.

A disciplined and principled man would not stuff cash in his cloths like that, or even go to that house, he’ll send driver to go and pick it up in case of casting. Lawan Lacked street orientation…

Thank you.

@pokeville

Capable

Laxy weekday, ran away from Federal Secretariat, just got back home, Alc. Is serzly hola’in my throat, however no much cash; so I have to multi-task. Thought run into my head of a possible spot for free booze. Shapaly, I tidy up, cologne up and baff-up(the WASH) and burst into Garki 2, ma guy crib precisely. Now his kid Sis is throwing a mini gig, young males and many many many young females (hommie’s delight) in attendance too. Light music soothing our ears, shayo all around the place, stench of trees all in the atmosphere, pepper chicken, and those small small tins that resemble shawarma, and many more tins tins tins…. Thirty mins later, and I strongly believe with my same motive and intention (free booze) some bad guys (about 3 of them) just burst in, just lock up, just look look look, as de notice no body send dem, they just go back back back, to the last back and just posi, just de…I mean like some 10 to 15 year olds. So the smally(celebrant) elder brother(my guy younger brother) just code the movement of the trio way, he just dive-in, just intercept and corner them…noticing him approaching towards them, they compose, and lean deeply in the couch…now my dude younger bro dancing’ly arrive that end, cutting, and dancing thru jiving ‘invited guests’ till he got to them, and he went ‘guys wassup nau, haba its not fair oh! See everybody dancing and you guys are still sitting down’ at once the 1^st hommie said ‘mscheeeeeeew’ the 2^nd whispered ‘na small pikin tin be dis? How I go just de dance wey eye still clear’ the 3^rd didn’t say anything, but all three still held their cool. Well, in all honesty I came to party and cancel kwalba, so I no to to bother dem. So am still grinding… still doin ma thang, (cos truthfully 1 sure, and confirm smally was posted to me full-time, and I was feeling the heat and tins) finally, after much much, and for peace to reign, and if them boys MUST dance, Shayo must fall. So my guy’s bro had to arrange them with booze to loosen them up a lil… BEFORE I BLINK MY EYE, 2 JELZIN DON FALL. In fact without mixers oh! They fall 2 JELZIN illegal, without remorse.  Surely my mind cut. Who would have thought that these ‘skinny jeans wearing, high-tops popping, boxer dropping, Bruno-Mars wannabes’ can down Jelzin without conscience. 2 JELZIN. Well shortly after, the dance floor was so so alive and active because all three boys made all of our day.

The reasoning behind this write-up is not that Alcohol provides morale, naaa, its far from that, it bolis down to us having a particular mental state of mind which limits another person’s personal abilities; like we ‘incorporated’ that other individual, and stated clearly what the person can do and cannot do.

There is an undeniable fact that you cannot force a boy to be a man, there must be reasonable time between boyhood and manhood, so maybe, or, its possible I was jonzing that year, and I didn’t live up to your ‘laid down expectation’ (like ur my God) but am a man now, why still judge, and regard me as that young boy I was? … Certain times, certain people just see some person and just decide on their abilities… Wait… who has made you an ‘authority’ that you just stand-fit and just-like -dat raise, or set a standard of behavior or opinion like if they open your head contents other than mucus would be found. This annoyingly happens also in our homes, where adults under the umbrella of parents just decide this child is useful, and the other unfit; undoubted, this places a psychological wall in front of the child deterring him or her from perceiving himself or herself as worthy of anything productive or good. (This don’t apply in all cases though, because some people rightly view insults as challenges)

You did not create me, neither did I develop you, you obviously cannot know beyond what you see or hear, why then would you say am up-to-no-good? Just basically because my ideologies differ from yours, you judge me as incompetent or unfit. And with close objective scrutiny there is always a revelation that you are an epitome of dust-bin.

I supported Chelsea FC this past European soccer season for a lot of reasons

1-      Am an English fan

2-      Barca stopped my back-to-back champions league victory

3-      Most importantly, why cant an athletic institution of humans not win another athletic institution just because they are BARCA, mscheeeeew, am like why cant Chelsea dull Barca? Just why? Is it because of lionel, or iniesta? People indiscriminately wrote Chelsea off, dats my

Problem…who would have thought …

Point is there is hustle for everybody, I mustn’t do what you have planned for me, am an independent thinker, and my mind works independently also, and as the days unfold, new ideas are born, new concepts are formed and developed and there is indeed new followership by many.

Ill-blise said ‘the field is large enough’ there is hustle for you, there is for me, we need not fight over who is right, allow judgment for God. so I humbly advice we discipline ourselves to focus on ourselves as we ought to encourage positive ideas of others not kill them.  Hov said Biggie told him to remind himself, dat no body is built like him, that he designs himself and dats my message for you.

Finally, I don vex; truth is, these peeps dat be vexing for peeps indiscriminately are just mad cos we, as unserious as we seem and are portrayed, still come up with DOPE concepts dat re-define creativity, and the marvel is, we fuse them with local content…. DATS WHY THEY MAD…

Just do yo thang….

Thank you
@pokeville

My confidence

Anytime I see a pair of skinnies, or the possible thought of it (skinny jeans) pop into my head, the only thing that speedily arrives is that‘discomforting period/moment when ‘broda’ below need air, and it cant get none’cos really those skinnies suck out all the air in the crotch region, and that my friend, is NOT COMFORTABLE. Those pairs don’t even allow free movement of the thighs, it will just be hanging… also we must agree fellas,that there are times when there are issues with the eyes, and unfortunately you cannot strike a balance with your brain, and your brain now mis-translates to ‘broda’ and too want to see the bone of contention from inside trouser; Then there is a problem cos this might occur in public. That’s that for skinnies. Oya please, reason this shaky shaky trouser office people wear (honestly I do not know the name) that one too does not have packaging, that one also use to expose tins, cos the shape of stuff can just be showing even when a brother is walking from afar, now that way it can make you uncomfortable, and that definitely hinders hustle. Okay okay, just reason a female Boss sitting, and you standing, are addressing her; notice that the level of her eyes are straight to that your 'merg'.(dat causes discomfort)

The pinnacle was in camp, wow!!! Laps cast, slim ones, faaaatttt ones, medium, polka dot lap, spotless laps, I mean different types just de careless anyhow. To all angles lap lap lap lap… in fact from 5.30a.m to 10.30p.m different skin(s) I see tire… my‘broda’ de on steady piss off; worst is dem say we must wear boxers, chei!!! Boxers??? Mscheeeeew!!! See they took me unaware, cos I for buy jeans shorts, or some other type of pants that can cage my ‘broda’ to avoid public casting. Every time every time my hand de my pocket to angle/hold the dude so no one would notice. (Preferable with the left hand in case you have to make a sharp shake with your right hand)

But wait… some girls are bad oh!!!, forget joke, de are really rated (toor badt). They will just fix eye for zip side, and refuse to remove face. Wetin una de find for that side? Check 1 time in camp wen I was suppose accompany one female to her hostel, and‘broda’ was on point, and I just had to wait for it to chill, den shawty starts to get angry, and accused me of been conceited; she didn’t know I just couldn’t stand cos it must cast, and must draw attention and automatic fall of hand. So I had to chill for him to mellow down first.

Nature designed the body to work independently for the greater whole. There are certain things we cannot control in our capacity as humans, like an unprecedented standing ovation. DAT NIGGA RAW talked bout that standing ovation tin in that spiritual conji joint.‘Broda get im own mind oh! E de take im own decisions contrary, or in some occasions in-conformity with the owner.

Point is, there are events, things we cannot fight going by our mortal abilities, nature just makes some matters out rightly impossible. However, how we react to these events immediately after, defines our characters. Face it, there are thoughts you hate having in your head that still finds its way into your mind. Fine, but how you are able to manage that state of reason matters a lot. You know, we can actually position our minds and channel our thoughts to avenues that will generate only positive and favorable results. Investing reasonable productive time into acts that define you the best way you want to be seen and understood. So whether it is skinny, or boxer, or macleans(got ma confidence back) or Jegins or anything, just ensure you have your confidence intact. Your confidence can mar or make you.

You are more important to yourself than anybody close is to you (strict reality) whether wife, mom, girlfriend, guy whatever; you like your self more, well I wunt speak for the dead, cos honestly I have never died. So Stay alive, and ensure you keep those things that will bring smile and confidence; and clap away bad-belle people from your circle.

Thank you.

@pokeville