MaRRiaGE

Brothers are giving up on everything just because ‘they’ (brothers) give a lot of flimsy and shitty reasons for not taking the girl to the Altar. Reasons like ‘my mom don’t like you’ ‘my sister dreamt you are an ogbanje’ ‘my father said your father stole yam during the war’ so we cannot hang no more after sucking the juice out of the girl’s body, and she’s looking like puke. GOD IS WATCHING

If she brings any form of stability in your life, or balances your hustle, or caters for your household, put a ring on her finger (don’t dull it). Serzly, the writer would have said if she’s good in bed, but as a Catholic we don’t advocate for pre-marital capping, but don’t sweat it, about 70% tidy, so, if she’s good in bed MARRY her. Look marriage is not complicated at all like we think, it’s not enigmatic, it’s not problematic, well the only problem is that it becomes extremely BORING after a while. Marriage is like clear-cut glass, it’s unequivocal, unambiguous. See God will not allow for the preservation of the sacredness of the institution of marriage for this long if it was an impossible or dirty event.

Bruf look, who said she has to come from your locality before she becomes eligible? See some of our parents married from their side because they grew up together, or they forced upon them females, or just because they met nice traits in them, that’s all. Things have changed now, ok check the writer has lived in Abuja for 25 outta 26 years, the mentality and orientation he has is strictly Northern (not Malo) don’t rush, don’t fight, just Swagly do stuff yh; now how can I just meet, live and work with somebody without similarities? How do I live with a person that don’t think like me, and that we do not have a ‘mental connection point’? We just wunt work…

Point is, if I can live with Itsekiri, then that’s that; if she’s Akwa-ibom, or Nupe, or Calabari, or Ibo, or Ijaw, or Hausa, or Gwari or Yoruba or anything, even Winch, just Marry and start life. Unlike Yankee or Jand, here, in Naija if you no marry they’ll say you are possessed; that’s why it’s kinda mandatory to marry. Geographical area does not make a being FIT for earth’s longest union; no doubt it helps but it doesn’t boil down entirely to that. Agree with the writer that, if she could change color, or name, she definitely would for your sake… marriage is simply like Marijuana, it can mar or make a man. A good woman is good regardless of age, height or color.

THEwriter cares Less what you think, THEwriter believes it’s messed up judging a person on grounds of things they cannot change… if you fight over excess alcohol, over tobacco, or most commonly, over staying out late, then it’s cool. These are immoral acts that can be changed. Not blood-type, age, color, height, village (but be careful sha, some side still de chao flesh) or name, or facial marks (kai!!! But some parents have to stop TIGER marks on kids, especially females) or place of worship, or religious denomination. This in fact (religious denomination) is a reason that prompted this write-up. Look a choice of the same religion, or same locality (village) solves 50% of post-marital life’s kwata-kwata, no doubt; but the writer’ll ask 1 question (answer in ur mind) does full-born married Catholics fight in marriage? How about Pentico? If the answer is yes, then it only means fights are just an inevitable aspect of married life, it comes due to conflict of interest. Dude, shawty listen up, your parents have lived their lives, so will your friends, and it boils down to YOU and your SPOUSE ONLY. Just hang with a person you can live with, that’s what’s most important; not some rubbish, smelling, mu-mu annoying reasons WE always put up.

Thank you                   

 @pcogitatio