R.I.P Love (vol. 1)

                                         28-01-2008 - 21-06-2012

‘am so sure if I meant all wat u claimed den ure supose to sacrifice more dan am doin to ensure we grow into a higher level. U dnt put me in ur priority datz y u let me use ma last naira to buy card while u use use to drink wit ur frds. Do ur frds behave lik dat to dere gals? Y do u always let me do everytin even wen u can do a lot more wit d lil u hav? Am I askn u to buy me a house or a car? Jst card so we wld talk. Ur still ur old self n notin has changed abt u. Am sorry but I can’t continue any more. U always make me cry by ur actions n am tired of cryn wen I can b happy’

That’s what she sent to me weeks to my hammer, apparently she needs no part in the comfort I’ll offer. Space has not allowed her witness for herself the truth on ground. The reality is, her grounds for her argument and subsequent forging ahead are genuine, and admissible; and justly, I have to accept the reasoning even though in tears. I guess I’ll set fire to the rain emitting from my eyes and dry it up shapa shapa. Window has closed, na door I de track next.

The above was sent to the writer by a person, who chose to remain anonymous for deliberation, and a lot of points are deducible and stand fit, but we’ll attempt distance, sacrifice and patience in this post, and then trust, understanding, comparison and positivism in a sequel:

Pt1: @standupchic in her blog http://standupchic.wordpress.com/2012/06/21/been-in-love/ (check it out), was hola’rin bout distance as a factor that affects relationships; but in this write-up it’s regardless of it been primary or secondary. The writer is trying to treat distance in its strict sense (proximity).  Truth is distance really does affect stuff, because we see a whole lot of folks, both married, and un-married path-ways because of ‘physical absence’ of each other, not mental or spiritual; just ‘physical‘so is it really suppose to be affecting stuff? The writer thinks that’s all the excuse they give to commit illegal (#justsayin) the writer does not think distance should damage stuff; See its better now because OBJ did it fresh, and communication got a lot easier, at least there’s technology that can allow you HEAR sound from them even if you don not see them, but still people split. This is me, the writer feels distance is just an excuse man relies on to move ahead to appease appetite and thirst with something NEW… i travel to new side, I see new tins I tire for old tin… PERIOD…! Check, if she’s not by my side, am good because I trust she ain’t doin wrong, not necessarily because she isn’t,(only God knows) but simply so I don’t  nurse illegal thoughts, and create untrue  events which might now cause many many problems if she isn’t, and all the wahala will be thanks to my negative mind. Also, Just because of the excess ‘missing’ and in some cases ‘conji’ our minds begin to manufacture excuses justifying acts and omissions. You call less, do not communicate too often anymore etc. some would argue out of sight is out of mind.

Pt2: sacrifice is key in a union, that alone visualize a ‘claim to love’ sacrifice is not just your everyday giving, this one is different, it entails LOSING something in return for the realisation of a greater good. When you give and not feel any pain in that act of giving then it has not reached that level to attain sacrificial status. If you put quality into your union\relationship, quality will come out. No doubt about that.

Pt3: patience is a virtue and this should be applied to all aspects of human life. Well, we all have patience for food to at least half-cook. The writer can chao stuff from fire when kush instigate hunger which spark up anger. So let’s use partly cooked food still cooking to give us all some little trait of patience; We have that level of patience, but the main patience is the one that can supposedly seem to intend to hinder our hustle, that’s the one we misunderstand, then impatient us detest; and that’s the one that carry the ‘fine-girl price’ and that’s what we fail to claim because we just cant WAIT…

The writer believes that problems of phone call, drinking beer with guys, tears tins should be substituted with profound sacrifice, patience, RESPECT(most significantly), and a positive mind because they can, and will hold and sustain any union, regardless of the physical proximity (distance) between the parties to the love. Except when one party or both want to taste new tin, and want to hide under the protective umbrella of distance and quarrel quarrel which has worked for years. Else I think space between parties alone should not cause kwata kwata or put an end to a union.

Thank you

@pokeville